Holiday Triggers Toolkit

A Resource For Navigating the Holidays with Peace

Not Feeling Joy

The holidays can be the hardest time when you’re healing from betrayal. Unspoken emotions bubble up, old wounds reopen, and your subconscious mind pulls you back to painful memories, even when you try to move forward.

Dreading Family Gatherings

The weight of grief, anger, and fear can feel heavier during family gatherings. You might even find yourself dreading these holiday events that once brought you joy.

You don’t have to let these triggers control your holiday season.

Want Peace & Hope

Regardless of what you are going through in your marriage, you can still feel peace and joy this season. You just need the right tools to ground you when triggering moments come up. Let me guide you.

What types of holiday triggers will this toolkit help me with?

Unexpected questions about your relationship or how you’re “really doing”
Being around your partner’s family or friends who remind you of the betrayal
Traditions or memories that bring up pain
Feeling overwhelmed by social pressure, small talk, or pretending you’re okay
Emotional waves that hit out of nowhere during gatherings
Moments when your nervous system suddenly spikes and you need grounding fast
Seeing couples being affectionate when you feel hurt or disconnected
This toolkit helps you release those heavy feelings and find moments of calm, so you can be truly present and start to reclaim your joy — one breath at a time.

What’s Inside:

Holiday Triggers Workbook

This workbook is designed to help betrayed wives manage emotional spiraling before it takes over. It also helps process the daily triggers that surface during the holiday season—especially the old wounds from what he was doing last holiday season. Also lessen triggers rooted in fear and mistrust.

Guided Holiday Trigger Meditation

Use this audio to release the sadness and anger that arise from his betrayal during this holiday season. It helps melt tension, quiet intrusive thoughts, and help your heart feel safe again during emotionally heavy holiday moments.

Holiday Party Trigger Scripts: What to Say to Family and Friends

Use these carefully crafted sentence starters and phrases with family and friends who don’t know—or know very little—about the affair. Navigate triggering moments in public settings with grace using subtle, in-the-moment responses.

SOS Grounding Exercise

Do this quick 2–3 minute exercise, and in just minutes your holiday trigger will lessen. This exercise helps release overwhelm and restore calm instantly.

Why This Toolkit Works

Your subconscious holds the emotional pain that talk alone can’t reach. This toolkit uses neuroscience-backed tools designed to gently calm your nervous system and quiet the chaos inside — so you can heal from the inside out.
It’s created specifically for women rebuilding after infidelity who face the unique emotional storms the holidays can bring.

Meet Beth Miller

The Infidelity Support Group, led by Beth Miller, Marriage Coach, Certified Hypnotist, and Founder of the Marriage Saver Program, has helped hundreds of wives heal from betrayal trauma and rebuild trust. Beth’s unique method combines psychology and neuroscience, because betrayal healing can’t happen with just talk therapy—it’s about getting to the root of your painful thoughts, emotions and memories to heal yourself and marriage.

Join us and start your journey to emotional freedom and marriage repair.

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Frequently Asked Questions

What will the toolkit help me with?

This toolkit will support you through the most common holiday-trigger situations. It’s designed to help you stay regulated, empowered, and steady no matter what comes up.

When can I use the Holiday Gathering Trigger Script?

Use the script anytime you’re at a family or friend gathering and begin feeling overwhelmed, especially if people start asking about your well-being, your relationship, or anything that feels too personal.

The script helps you stay grounded, calm, and in control. It keeps your boundaries protected while still allowing you to respond confidently without oversharing.

How do I access the Holiday Trigger Toolkit?

You’ll receive instant access. An email will be sent to your inbox right away with your login details and your link to the private portal where all the tools are stored.

How long will I have access to the Holiday Trigger Toolkit?

You’ll have lifetime access, so you can revisit the tools during any holiday season, not only Christmas.

The SOS Exercise — when should I use it?

You can use the SOS exercise whenever you need a fast emotional reset. It takes only 2–3 minutes, making it perfect for a quick step into the bathroom, a quiet hallway, or stepping outside for fresh air. It’s designed to calm your system quickly so you can return to the gathering feeling grounded.

How long is the meditation?

The meditation is approximately 10 minutes. You can extend the experience because soothing music continues at the end, allowing you to stay in the calm state as long as you want.

When would I use the Holiday Trigger Workbook?

Use the workbook anytime throughout the holiday season before gatherings to prepare, after gatherings to decompress, or anytime you feel emotional heaviness.

It helps you process, release, and understand the thoughts and emotions connected to holiday triggers.

What’s Inside:

Holiday Triggers Workbook
Guided Holiday Trigger Meditation
Holiday Party Trigger Script: What to Say to Family and Friends
SOS Grounding Exercise